1. When Jesus arrived in Bethany, how long had Lazarus been dead?

2. Explain the meaning of the two "weepings" in John 11.31-33.

3. Were there other times when the Lord wept?

4. Who had the power of death before the Lord's death and resurrection?

5. Should all believers react the same to the death of a loved one?

6. How did Lazarus' sisters react to his death?

7. How did Jesus comfort Mary and Martha?

1. For four days, including the messenger's travel, the two days of Jesus' delay, and the day it took for Jesus to travel to Bethany.

2. The Jews who mourned with Mary and Martha gave a loud expression of grief. The Lord groaned quietly in the spirit, being deeply moved and troubled.

3. Yes. He wept over Jerusalem and He wept in the Garden of Gethsemane.

4. Satan. See Hebrews 2.14.

5. No. We know that from experience that people react differently, and it is taught in the Bible. It is not wrong to weep, for God made us emotional people.

6. Both Mary and Martha said, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died" (John 11.21, 32). Their reactions, however, were quite different. Mary stayed in the house, weeping with the mourners. Martha went out to meet the Lord on the road, and we don't read of her weeping. Mary fell at the Lord's feet, overcome with grief. Martha, on the other hand, had a profound theological discussion with the Lord. Mary and Martha both loved Lazarus, and the Lord didn't rebuke either one.

7. The Lord comforted Mary by saying nothing, but by weeping with her. He comforted Martha by answering her questions about the resurrection.

1) When you have grieved in the loss of a loved one, how were you comforted?

2) Have you had the opportunity to comfort someone who has lost a loved one?

3) In your comforting of another, be sensitive to that person's particular need.

4) At the time of a loved one's death, the "if onlys" will invariably arise. They will move you away from God or toward God. Be prepared for the "if onlys," and don't let them move you away from God.

"Martha said, 'Lord if You had been here, my brother would not have died." John 11:21